10 years in Melbourne: the places I have lived

There is a fear that to leave a place you’ve called home is to leave everything behind, to severe yourself, henceforth, from all that transpired in that place, the person you were there and the memories you created, and to move from a place of safety to that which is unstable and unknown. That’s not true in the sense that it is believed. What that is, is bullshit. Things will be left behind whether you stay or leave. Leaving one home simply means moving to another, to where you will carry all of what you need, not only in boxes and bags, but somewhere in your heart – which is the only home, I believe, you will ever truly inhabit.

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I can’t write

At the moment. Usually I write late at night or in the early hours of the morning, about half an hour or so after I’ve turned the light off, when I realise that going to sleep is impossible once I’ve started drafting something in my head – my head my head my head – and so I relent, let it win, the story, whatever it is, and reach for my laptop but leave the light off, so I’m propped up in bed tapping away, reading things back out loud, sometimes laughing at my own words, my own recollections, sometimes crying, until it’s done – and I don’t mean finished, I just mean done because it’s rare that I finish a story but it’s not often I’m not done with it. I know that once the moment is upon me, and the story is there, it is only then I can write it; if I don’t it will dissipate as quickly as the dream that was so vivid upon waking, the dream I was sure I’d remember, but then only minutes later is gone, left only a residual feeling but no memory of what had transpired. Those moments, the late-night writing moments turned into marathons, have left me, and I miss them. I want them back. I want to let all these words come out, inelegantly, messily, splattered, until I arrive as something I knew was there but couldn’t say until I’d done the work, fished around, wrote about this and that and then realised only at the very end that that’s the meaning I was looking for, that’s the last piece of the puzzle. Until I’m done. It is that moment, when everything falls into place as though I had spent hours planning and drafting – and really I do, in a way: the early-morning coffee contemplations, the rambling thoughts of an afternoon walk, the moment you see a man in the kitchen of a restaurant put his mop down and start dancing, gracefully, thoughtfully, unaware he’s being watched, and your heart clenches. It is turning those moments into words that I miss – because if I don’t do it, even if I don’t do it well, even if no one ever sees the words let alone reads them, part of me is left wanting. Part of me, even, feels missing. But I can’t write, at least not at the moment, because when I turn off the light and get into bed, I sleep. Because my mind – my mind my mind my mind – has slowed down. It’s slowed down, and so instead of writing, I sleep. And only a fool would give up sleep once they have tasted the sweetness of a sleep that comes easy. So I must look for another writer in me: my daytime writer. I must look for her in the backstreets, all day, and all night.

a date at Shebeen

I was running about half an hour late for this date for the simple fact I had decided to take a late-in-the-day nap. He was running late himself so he pushed the meeting time back and I was snuggling in bed like I had all the time in the world up until the very moment I realised I didn’t, so I quickly changed and headed out into the dark. I was waiting for the tram on Sydney Road, at the corner of Albion, when he texted to apologise for the mess around and to say that he actually prides himself on his punctuality and as such had managed to find a way to get to the city at the time originally planned, leaving me not only late but very late and with really no other choice but to call on the services of a gentleman driving a yellow car to whom I paid not much more than I would have spent on a tram fare (which I had had no intention of paying since there is no Myki service near to the stop at that hour and to top up my card would have been to go entirely out of my way and I prefer to prove the point of what a failed public transport system Melburnians have found themselves with, the fact of which grows more and more apparent with every trip you take, which I could go on lamenting but, as I say, I had a date to get to and I probably said as much to the driver who dropped me at the corner of Elizabeth and Collins, just out the front of the Block Arcade, and by this point I really should close off with a right bracket but I’ve meandered on far beyond the initial parenthetical statement and so to free myself I will simply have to stop). I walked up to the crossing in front of Australia on Collins, where in my more youthful years I’d done stints working at both Crabtree & Evelyn (where I learned the art of gift-wrapping) and TieRack (where I learned the art of saying sexually inappropriate things behind men’s back), and idled down Manchester Lane, where Shebeen is located. It had been my date’s choice, though we agreed later that neither of us liked it very much for its unbearably pretentious staff – ‘How can you be that rude when you’re wearing tracksuit pants at work?’ I asked him after buying the third round – and also for the $15 eftpos minimum about which we spent a good twenty or thirty minutes exchanging stories that demonstrated how increasingly enraged we both were by not being able to put a four dollar coffee on your card in the basically cashless society in which we found ourselves living. We both sighed, sat back in our uncomfortable but aesthetically appropriate chairs and took a sip from our $13 beers, the profits of which would go to a certain worthy overseas cause, though the bar staff disgruntledly said not to ask them which.

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late-night confessions

I was at my brother’s house, sitting in his spot on the living room couch, which he insists isn’t his spot but which I’m sure is for the exact reason I gravitate there: it provides the best vantage point in the room. He’d made me a whiskey and water, the preparation of which I was able to watch from where I was seated, after I’d insisted I needed and wanted and desired one last drink, but once I’d taken my first sip I set it down and left it there. We’d been that evening at Neighbourhood Wine, a favourite of mine in Fitzroy North, where we sat at a reserved spot for three at the bar. The third spot was occupied by my very good friend with whom I’d spent the day wining, dining and, at day’s end, literally dancing around my apartment, strewn with yet to be packed mess, while wearing our respective wedding attire and listening to Janet Jackson. We were already a bottle of champagne and a few ciders down by the time we got to the restaurant where we spent much of the evening behaving inappropriately towards the sommelier who had, in my opinion, sexy casual swagger, appropriately aided by the number of his shirt buttons undone – a number that would be deemed far too many under other circumstances. But I liked his hairy chest, and we were all – we were all – attempting to flirt with him during the very brief moments it was possible. We drank a carafe of prosecco, my celebratory drink of choice, because it did indeed feel like a celebration, and ate several delicious dishes for which we sent compliments to the chef, who, incidentally, was the wife of the gentleman we were borderline sexually harassing (though we did not know this at the time). As the night drew to a close and the bill was paid, I sent my yawning friend home, to Richmond and her fiancé, and went with M, who also never knows when to call it quits, into the adjoining bar, surprisingly busy, where we were told we could have one last drink. While waiting to be served, I alerted M to the fact I was just briefly moving over towards the window to pass wind, which I did, and upon my return he alerted me to the fact the window was – hadn’t I noticed? – closed, though this had already become apparent. At this point the bar staff told us that the till was closed for the evening, no surprise really, the time being close to 1am and our geographical location being Melbourne, the city that only ever sleeps (and brunches and watches films outdoors). I cried foul play anyway and left the bar, without the need for brute force, but not before popping my head back into the restaurant to bid the sommelier, to whom I tipped three whole dollars, a very good evening. A we descended the stairs onto the street we met the golden lights of Nicholson Street and it momentarily felt as though it was only 1pm. We walked the several blocks back to Carlton North, to M’s house, without taking in my suggested detour of one last drink at the Great North (which would have most certainly been closed) instead reaching the point, at which I began this story, where we sat on M’s dated, midnight blue lounge suite, drinking or not drinking whiskey and waters talking about all kinds of things, serious and not serious, including the text I’d sent a few days earlier to someone on Tinder, a text which I had thought was very funny, and so did M, but which had been left replyless under very awkward circumstances, of which I won’t bother to disclose. So this was where we had been and what we had done when I said,

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the birdman

On my way to the tram stop, after meeting a friend at Melbourne uni, I watch a blonde-haired guy drop to his haunches and wrap his arms around his head just as two low-flying crows pass above him. He rises hesitantly after a moment, by which time I’ve come closer towards him, and I laugh and ask if he is okay.

‘I’m really fucking scared of birds,’ he says seriously. ‘They think my hair is straw.’

He pulls his short ponytail around to his front, for proof of the fact. His face has a T-shaped scar that runs across his brow and down and around his nose, as though it had not that long ago been ripped off then very poorly stuck back down. I make a quick assumption that his fear of birds and the horrific scar are together a product of a severe bird attack. I hold my breath and wait for him to tell me so much is true. But he doesn’t.

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as I ran away, I ran into another unrequited interest

I had been sure that I was doing the right thing, in leaving for a while, in going and doing something that is going to make me uncomfortable, rather than continuing to exist in its opposite. I had been sure. I had been sure when I emailed Barry Plant to say I wanted to end my lease. I had been sure when the truck came to take my meagre stock of belongings back to my mum’s house in Mildura. And still I had been sure as I slowly said goodbye to my friends, as though those goodbyes were permanent. Since the moment I booked my flight, I had been sure it was the right decision. It all just felt right. Until, that is, the day before my flight.

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vulnerable travel. travel vulnerable.

The water was moving me back and forth with a rapidity I had not expected nor had a I ever experienced. I didn’t know what do. I felt that if I didn’t resist it, I would be swept away from the group. I grabbed onto dead coral but it sliced and shred my fingertips. Eventually, exhausted, and using too much air, I signalled to the dive instructor that I was stressed. He reached out and grabbed my hand. With his free hand he pointed up; my gaze followed. Manta rays were circling above, it was majestic. When we got back on the boat I lay on its rooftop, pulling off my wetsuit, breathing deeply, looking at my bleeding fingers, thinking about his strong hand clutching mine. When I got back to my room I cried under the shower.

Nusa Lembongan, Bali 2013

I awoke at 2am with the immediate need to go to the toilet. I climbed down from the top bunk and made my way through the dark hallways to the bathroom. What came out was like water, and when I looked between my legs into the bowl, it was tomato red. I wiped and inspected the tissue. Blood diarrhea? Had I caught some perhistoric bacteria on Machu Picchu? It continued all night. The next day I was fatigued beyond anything I’d ever known. I asked at the front desk about the cost of seeing an English-speaking doctor. The man said it would cost $50. Instead I went to the farmacia and took whatever it was they gave me. I shifted dorm rooms later that day and when the guy at the front desk offered to carry my bag up the flight of stairs I didn’t refuse. I said, Por favor. Gracias.

Cusco, Peru 2010

We were sitting on his couch in Lima and he was telling me I take goodbyes too literally. Though I wanted desperately to leave, to never see him again, to jump off the emotional roller coaster that had been my time with him, I still wanted him to want me to stay. I wanted it to have meant something. We kissed through the closed security door, my hands on the bars, his on mine. I looked back as I bounded down the stairs. I knew he would be watching me, but I looked back anyway.

Lima, Peru 2010

I was coughing, and it was relentless. All night, all day. Lying down, sitting up. You are very sick, he said. You could die, he said. I told him I was okay, that it would pass in a couple of days. He made me a cup of tea and sat down across from me. He asked me why I was by myself and whether I get lonely when I travel alone. I said I didn’t. But I went upstairs and cried, because I was more lonely than I had ever been. I was so lonely I had to leave Melbourne, to get away. But it had followed me. I couldn’t escape.

Luang Prabang, Laos, 2014

She was wearing loose-fit, light denim jeans, a singlet and sandals and she had Argentine swagger. When she passed us on Avenida Santa Fe, a chill went up my side and my stomach dropped. I turned to my friend: Did you see her? I asked. Her mouth was ajar. It was Ann-Marie, she said.

Buenos Aires, Argentina 2010

I opened my Hotmail account and found an email from him. He’d baked a chocolate cake and put on it the number 2 candle from my birthday the previous year and held three fingers up next to it. Happy 23rd Birthday, he said. I cried. I couldn’t imagine how anyone could ever love me more than he did.

Bogota, Colombia 2009

She asked me to go to brunch with her and her girlfriend. I couldn’t speak Japanese and she and her friends had only a few words of English between them. I accepted the offer. It was beautiful kindest. I arrived in Kanazawa later that afternoon, in the midst of a typhoon. I sheltered under a carport, sitting on my backpack, drinking a vending machine soft drink. The hostel manager arrived a couple of hours later: Gabby-san, Gabby-san, come inside!

Takayama, Japan 2012